Tips for Job Seekers


Tips for Job Seekers

Best practices from Human Resource professional for Job seekers to become successful in finding new employment in Cyprus.

Building psychological resilience to get through tough time

by Vicky Charalambous

  Psychological resilience refers to one’s ability to adapt to traumatic or stressful situations. Undoubtedly, emotional pain and grief are inevitable when we are faced with difficulties in our lives. However, different people react differently to these situations and those with greater psychological resilience are better equipped to adapt to changes more easily and find a way to protect themselves.

Listed below are some tips which psychological research has shown to contribute towards the fortification of a psychological resilience:


The first step is to accept the fact that difficulties and unpleasant changes are a part of life. By accepting conditions that can't be changed at that specific moment, we are helping ourselves to focus on situations that we can control and change.


The adoption of a positive way of thinking and by experiencing positive emotions in our everyday life (such as love, joy, hope, optimism, interest, etc.) helps cope with the negative emotions as it acts as an antidote. According to surveys by Barbara Fredrickson, when people experience positive emotions, they “extend the field of alternative solutions in which they can turn to in order to solve a problem or achieve an objective”. More importantly, the regular experience of positive emotions mobilizes the mechanisms that lead to mental and psychological prosperity and secure personal wellbeing.

Appreciating the people that have always supported us and paying attention to all the positive situations that occur in our lives has proved to be particularly psychotherapeutic. Research shows that when we appreciate and enjoy what we have in our everyday life (rather than focusing on what we don't have) we feel more satisfied, hence happy.

The most resilient and happy people seem to be those who have deep, strong and meaningful relationships in their lives through which they share love and positive emotions. It doesn't really matter if they have a big or small social network. What matters is the quality of relationships we have and our interaction with positive people who are willing to listen.

It is very important that we enjoy the simple and beautiful moments that occur in our everyday life. Of course, the meaning which links to happiness and inner peace differs from person to person. For example, some people prefer to be closer to nature, some others turn to faith and religion whilst others turn their attention to activities and interests that make them happy and relax.

Sometimes a negative change can turn into an opportunity for better self-assessment and understanding. We should discover our strengths and talents or our creative capabilities and may invest in new areas and choices. We should believe in the unlimited power hidden inside which is activated when facing difficulties or when the appropriate stimulus is presented to us.

Always try to set realistic and attainable goals with specific deadlines and try to achieve them. This creates a feeling of accomplishment, motivation and hope for the future. Specifying or re-evaluating priorities for every area of our life leads to personal happiness and a sense of accomplishment.

Taking care of our body, exercising, getting adequate sleep and quality nutrition contributes significantly to the health and happiness of the human mind and soul.

The development of our social network, the promotion of voluntary work and participation in cultural or professional groups makes individuals feel as part of a larger group. It is a given that knowing that there are other people with common problems, values and beliefs helps suppress the feeling of loneliness. Furthermore, offering help to others in need has proven to help both the provider as well as the receiver of the support.

The adoption of values such as responsibility, respect, fairness, cooperation, simplicity and boldness can be the starting point and inspiration for a new beginning. Exclusively investing in money and values of overconsumption and materialism has been proven to be very fragile and cannot give any permanent value to our lives. Certainly, there are more substantial and less fragile values, which can give meaning to us.

In conclusion, everyone can change and become more adaptable as long as they really want, try and have faith. Let’s not forget that everyone has responsibility for the quality of their life and the choices they make, and as shown above, there are ways to find spiritual strength within.

There are of course, external factors beyond our control. But there are many things we can do to help ourselves and others.

The good news is that the resilience ability may be enhanced, as it refers to specific behaviours, thoughts and actions, which can be learned and developed by the individual through dealing with difficulties. There are many examples of people who managed not only to overcome unpleasant events, losses and crises but they overcame them and became stronger in dealing with future challenges. They made it through because they refused to get discouraged by the obstacles and setbacks they faced.

“The leaders I met, whatever walk of life they were from, whatever institutions they were presiding over, always referred back to the same failure; something that happened to them that was personally difficult, even traumatic, something that made them feel that desperate sense of hitting bottom--as something they thought was almost a necessity. It's as if at that moment the iron entered their soul; that moment created the resilience that leaders need.” (Warren G. Bennis)

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